Modern Christianity uses too much New Testament while acting as if the New Testament experienced little influence by Roman culture. Nowadays, Christian feel uncomfortable with the Old Testament as it’s both more patriarchal and direct. Plus, God condemns behavior in the Old Testament that many Christians are guilty – gossip, lying and stirring up conflict. You can find these sins prevalent throughout many churches; a reason why Christians prefer the simple sin-messages of “Sex is bad. Alcohol is bad. Drugs are bad. Mmmmkay?”
Instead of doing what modern Christians do, let’s actually read the Old Testament with the New Testament and see what the Bible has to say as far as sex being a sin, modern men marrying women, and some other common gender assertions. Because this topic offer extensive possibilities, I’ll address it over many posts.
In 2 Samuel 11, we read the story of King David and Bathsheba. If you haven’t read this Bible passage, I suggest that you click the above link. In a nutshell, King David sees Bathseba bathing one day, and decided to sleep with her. The problem with all of this? Bathsheba was married to Uriah the Hittite. When Bathsheba learns that she is pregnant, David decides to bring back Uriah so that Uriah will sleep with his wife to cover up his sin. However, Uriah remains and honorable soldier and thus David has him killed by sending him to the front lines.
The most obvious problem with this passage is that even though it’s written like it happens in couple of days, without the modern technology we have today, this story had to occur over at least a few weeks to a month because
- Bathsheba had to know that she was pregnant. They didn’t have Old Testament pregnancy tests in those days, meaning that they relied heavily on monthly cycles (notice that verse 4 indicates this).
- Assuming the war was close, Uriah probably arrived within a day. Still, coming back from war and returning to war had to take at least two days. Depending on the distance, it may have been longer.
- When Uriah was called back, he didn’t sleep with his wife over several days.
Assuming that the enemy killed Uriah immediately when he returned, we can guess that at least a week went by before King David successfully killed Uriah. How is this important?
1. King David committed adultery. God did nothing.
2. King David tried to cover up his adultery. God did nothing.
3. King David had Uriah killed. As we’ll quickly see, God acts.
In the next chapter (Chapter 12), Nathan, the prophet, speaks for God against King David. God didn’t have Nathan visit King David after he committed adultery, even though that’s immoral. God didn’t have Nathan visit King David after he tried to hide his adultery, even though that is also wrong. God had Nathan visit King David only after he had Uriah killed.
Question: if sex outside of marriage (like adultery in this case) is such a terrible sin to God, why didn’t He have Nathan step in earlier (and save a life in the process)?
The typical Christian answer is “For His glory.” However, as we go through this discussion on sex outside of marriage and the Bible, we will find that it’s because while heavily demonized in modern churches, many devout followers of God in the Old Testament were sexually promiscuous. That did not stop God from loving them, investing in them, or working toward their betterment. In fact, King David having sex with Bathsheba led to their eventual marriage, which led to Bathsheba becoming the mother of Solomon (a woman whom some Biblical experts think wrote Proverbs 31 or passed it on to Solomon, under his pen name King Lemuel – not saying this is Biblically correct).
Usually, modern Christians will sweep these facts and stories to the side, while trying to demonize the male behavior of wanting sex. While this story serves as a good example of this (for instance, God does punish David), we’ll learn about other men of God in the Old Testament who were with multiple women, and yet never were punished by God. We’ll also take a look at the New Testament and what it says about marriage, gender and how our relationships should be.