Promiscuity and the Bible Part 1

 This is the first of an multiple part series on the Bible and promiscuity: no one part of this series should be read as a sole defense of promiscuity, as this series investigates this Christian view as a whole.

A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but woman is the glory of man.  For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.  1 Corinthians 11:7-9

King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women besides Pharaoh’s daughter—Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians and Hittites. They were from nations about which the Lord had told the Israelites, “You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods.” Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. He had seven hundred wives of royal birth and three hundred concubines, and his wives led him astray. 1Kings 11:1-3

A beginning thought and truth to this series: women exist for men.  Men do not exist for women.  If men didn’t want women, they would not exist.  God created women for men.  And clearly, God created dogs after women :).

One of the many Biblical problems that modern Christians face when addressing sexual promiscuity is the Old Testament example of King Solomon (he will be referred to as Solomon hereafter).  Some modern Christians will assert that Solomon’s wives led him astray from God, and thus this demonstrates that God does not approve of sexual promiscuity.  Other modern Christians will show that one cannot follow God and sexually experience many women – and Solomon’s example proves this.  Other modern Christians might even state that the rules against sexual promiscuity in the Bible don’t necessarily apply to kings that God appoints.

All ad-hoc explanations sound good, but fail.

1.  God does not condemn Solomon’s promiscuity.  In fact, Solomon’s sin was not having multiple wives – as we continue to read 1 Kings 11, but a sin of allowing women to influence him and intermarrying with foreign women.  Readers of Red Pill wisdom understand this – Solomon essentially becomes religiously betaized.  He follows the religious practice of his wives and does not maintain his dominant religious mindset (read Proverbs and note how dominant and authoritative Solomon is – an excellent book for young men to read).  He also marries women who God explicitly disapproves of; not a condemnation of sex with foreign women, but marriage.

Some modern Christians might say, “You can’t hook up with multiple women without them influencing you spiritually.”  This might be true: does hooking up with women draw you closer or further from Jesus?  For Solomon, it did not draw him closer – but this isn’t because he had multiple wives but because he was influenced by his multiple wives and took women God had condemned.

2.  The Bible lists many of Solomon’s wives and concubines, some of which were foreign and worshiped false gods.  However, the Bible doesn’t say that all his wives and concubines worshiped false gods.  This means that we would have to make assumptions about his wives’ and concubines’ spiritual state; some of them may have been followers of God (we don’t know).  Thus the assertion that if you sleep with many women, you’ll automatically turn away from God may or may not be true (refer to point one’s question).  The act of having sex simply doesn’t mean you want to read the Bible less, pray less, witness less, and lead in Christ less.  On the other hand, it might.

3.  The final defense I’ve heard is that King David, Solomon and other kings could have multiple wives because they were kings and “normal rules” don’t apply to kings.  Readers can determine if that explanation will suffice.

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11 comments

  1. So … let’s unpack this.

    I read this as: Solomon’s downfall was not having multiple wives. It was not that he had too many wives or too much sex.

    It was that he married some women God did not approve of. It was that he let some of his wives influence him spiritually away from the one true God. Ultimately it was that he allowed his wives distract him from his mission.

    OK. I can accept this for the sake of argument.

    Consider the arguments in favor of monogamy.

    1. The NT exhortation by St. Paul that a godly man is a husband to one wife (probably the letter to Titus, I think). This is most likely because a man with more than one wife will be distracted, and have his resources and loyalties spread too thin. How can he work, pray, serve, accomplish et al. if he has a gaggle of women constantly nagging, complaining at him, and competing for his attention and resources?

    2. Before a man can take a wife he must be able to support her and her children. Same with multiple wives — he has to be able to support his two, or three or more wives, and all those kids. Most men can’t even support one wife, much less more than one. (Hence the “normal rules” don’t apply to kings and rich men argument.)

    3. THe more women a man becomes intimate with, the easier it is to influence him and pull him away from God. St. Paul must have understood this. He knew the stories of Abraham, Jacob, David and Solomon. He knew Abraham listened to Sarah and impregnated Hagar, causing problems. He knew Jacob gave seven years of his life working to get Rachel after Laban had already given him Leah. He knew David took Bathsheba and had Uriah killed. He knew of Solomon. If only ONE woman has his sexual favors, then he is less likely to be distracted from Godly pursuits.

  2. One last thing:

    4. It might have been considered more “moral” and right for one man to have one wife, so that there is more order in society and it allows for more assortative mating. If one man gets two wives, that means one man doesn’t get a wife. If one man gets three wives, there are two men who won’t get a wife at all; and so on.

    One man gets one wife means the most men get a chance to get a wife.

  3. Deti.

    Appreciate the comments. One major note is that I’m dealing with this series a post at a time; I won’t look at the New Testament yet and I intentionally start in the OT because modern churches have left it in the dust and implied, in some cases, that it’s unimportant.

    As far as the OT is concerned, women didn’t have the power, like they do today, to support themselves. Thus, in a patriarchal society, men should be the providers and protectors and God makes this clear. However, our society is not patriarchal despite what feminists think.

    I’ll get into more of this as time goes on. You’ve also pointed to a post I should post before this, though I didn’t, but it’s important to understand.

  4. Think that the main moral of that OT story for us today is: “Marry Christian women!”(i don’t think on the cultural Christian, i’m thinking of the real ones if you get me) Since you would have real trouble with the one that has not given life of her’s to the Lord, but is just paying him a lip service.

    And about having sex with not only one woman, and outside of the marriage comes bassically to this: True Christian girls won’t do it for fun, the rest probably will. But “the rest” we can identify with those foreign pagan women of Salomon’s, so if they wish to have sex, and expect it form you without grief you bassically shouldn’t marry them. And if you are in a relationship with a Christian women, and sincerely think that she’s the one, minimal sex shouldn’t be considered a mortal sin, though sin it surely is, and they should repent and stay without it as long as they manage to… God is not a strict mindless lawgiver…

  5. Here it is god’ warning about polygamy:

    Deuteronomy 17:17
    He must not take many wives, or his heart will be led astray. He must not accumulate large amounts of silver and gold.

  6. @christian player

    I think polygamy in the bible is a compromise by god to ensure that women are well protected and well cared for however it is not the ideal as espoused by Jesus and Paul as well as in Genesis.

  7. G-man: The verse you posted possess a context, and hardly negates anything above this.

  8. Anonymous · · Reply

    It is my understanding that during OT times the act of having sex basically meant you were “married”. One and done. Hence why throughout the bible there are tonnes of references to adultery and it’s hard to find anything explicitly about “sex before marriage”. Because sex was marriage. If that’s true then it probably changes a lot of the arguments on here.

  9. Anon: This post says nothing about sex before marriage. And your understanding is unbiblical.

  10. llbrontell · · Reply

    If you like Solomon’s Proverbs, the you should read them very carefully. Particularly to chapters 1-7. The harlot is mentioned constantly. Nothing is really different between now and then. Women sought to entice alphas just as they do now. Solomon had a weakness here–and he was clearly and alpha. Both externally and internally.

    Only kings practiced acquiring multiple (or hundreds) of wives and concubines–and blatant promiscuity. The Bible does not condone this as model behavior–rather as unwise.

    Outside of royalty, plural marriage was *primarily* used as a welfare system for widows. (See the book of Ruth). If a young woman lost her husband withou having bore him children–as was often the case then, for there were many wars and rampant disease–the husband’s brother often took her in. The rules for this were outlined in the Law. (Deuteronomy 25:5-10)

    There are many accounts of promiscuity that are mentioned as a statement of fact. However, this does not mean that Scripture condones this behavior. There is not one account in OT Scripture that praises the practice of promiscuity or plural marriage, except when the Law if fulfilled as above (like Boaz in the book of Ruth).

    There are, however, countless warnings against sex outside of marriage, adultery, and promiscuity.

  11. This is a writing of a man who is trying to justify his sin. Basing a belief of the life of Soloman doesn’t make him right. The Bible clearly unrolls the real lives of people. It doesn’t hide sin. This sounds like a Mormon belief.
    Look at the New Testament and words of Jesus. He told the woman at the well to go and sin no more because she had had five husbands an the one she was with she wasn’t married to.
    The life of Solomon doesn’t justify a man having many wives.
    Woman was created for man to be at his side not at his feet. Man and woman were created for God. Man is NOT a god. Man and woman both have souls. Jesus counted man and woman’s souls valuable enough to die for. A man is supposed to cherish his wife as a gift from God. A woman is his helpmate.
    They are to work together.
    Humans are not to live like animals. We are above animals. God’s moral laws apply to man. The 10 commandments do not only apply to women but to men also.

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